Durham Services

Catholic Family Services of Durham
905-725-3135, 1-877-282-8932,
http://www.cfsdurham.com

Women’s Multicultural Resource and Counselling Centre of Durham
905-427-7849, 1-888-454-4035
http://www.wmrccdurham.org

Victim Services
1-888-579-1520 ext. 3400

Durham Regional Police Services
905-579-1520, 1-888-579-1520
http://www.drps.ca


Books

General Information

Our Little Secret: Confronting Child Sexual Abuse in Canada
By Judy Steed

For Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Beginning to Heal:  Revised Edition:   A First Book for Men and Women who were Sexually Abused as Children
By Ellen Bass, Laura Davis.
This book may be helpful for you if you are new to the healing process. You may find this book a good introduction to the healing process.

The Courage To Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
By Ellen Bass, Laura Davis
The Courage to Heal can be a comprehensive guide for both survivors and their support networks. This can be quite an intense read for survivors so please take your time and nurture yourself.

The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group
By Beverly Engel
As a trained therapist and sufferer of sexual abuse herself, Beverly Engel knows that there is probably no trauma a child can suffer that makes her or him feel more alone than sexual abuse. This helpful book offers hope for recovery with exercises, visualizations, and techniques that support you through a seven-step program, which will aid you in: facing the truth, releasing your anger, confronting those responsible with facts and feelings, forgiving yourself, and more healing advice and information.

I Never Told Anyone: Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
By Ellen Bass, Louise Thornton

It is a deeply moving collection of first person narratives of survivors of childhood sexual assault, not recommended to those who are new to the healing process.

It Happened to Me: A Teen’s Guide to Overcoming Sexual Abuse
By William Lee Carter
This is a workbook written specifically for teens and those who support them.

How Long Does It Hurt: A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families
By Cynthia L. Mather
Illustrator: Judy Wood
As told by: Kristina E. Debye

This is a bestselling book written by a survivor for other survivors, specifically teens to help overcome/work through feelings such as confusion, self doubt and isolation.

In Their Own Words: A sexual abuse workbook for teenage girls
By Lulie Munson and Karen Riskin

The Sexual Trauma Workbook for Teen Girls:  A Guide to Recovery from Sexual Assault and Abuse
By Raychelle Cassada Lohmann and Sheela Raja

An empowering workbook for working through trauma.

Sexuality and Intimacy

The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (3rd Edition)
By Wendy Maltz 
This book provides a guide, various materials and resources to help one on their healing journey and to reclaim sex as safe, loving and enjoyable.

Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Create Your Own Empowered Sexuality after Childhood Sexual Abuse
By Staci Haines
This book focuses on healthy sexuality and intimacy after sexual abuse.

For Family, Friends and Partners

Ghosts in the Bedroom: A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors
By Ken Graber

This book provides guidance and comfort for partners of survivors of sexual assault/abuse.

Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a child, a Support Book
Laura Davis
An in depth resource for those who support a survivor of sexual abuse.

Families in Recovery: Healing the damage of Childhood Sexual Abuse
By Beverly Engel

A guide for siblings and parents of survivors of childhood sexual abuse, on how to provide support in a mutual way.


Additional Resources and Supports

Ontario Coalition of Rape Crisis Centres
Includes general information on Sexual Violence, as well links to Rape Crisis Centre’s across Ontario. sexualassaultsupport.ca

Rape Abuse & Incest National Network
The largest U.S. based anti-sexual violence organization. www.rainn.org/

Action ontarienne contre la violence faite aux femmes (AOcVF)
www.francofemmes.org/aocvf/

Ontario Women’s Justice Network (OWJN)
Legal information on issues related to violence against women.
www.owjn.org

Ministry of the Attorney General – Independent legal advice for sexual assault victims

If you are a victim of sexual assault living in Ontario and would like to speak to a lawyer, you may be eligible for up to four hours of free legal advice by phone or video conversation (for example, Skype or Zoom). This service does not include legal representation in court.

https://www.ontario.ca/page/independent-legal-advice-sexual-assault-victims

The Metropolitan Action Committee on Violence Against Women and Children (METRAC)
METRAC is a not-for-profit, community-based organization that works to prevent and end violence against diverse women, youth, and children.
www.metrac.org

Shelternet – For Abused Women
http://www.povnet.org/node/3728

Centre for Research & Education on Violence Women and Children
The Centre promotes the development of community-centred, action research on violence against women and children. The Centre’s role is to facilitate the cooperation of individuals, groups and institutions representing the diversity of the community to pursue research questions and training opportunities to understand and prevent abuse.
www.crvawc.ca

PAR-L – A Canadian Electronic Feminist Network
www.unb.ca/PAR-L/index.htm

DisAbled Women’s Network Ontario (DAWN)
DAWN is a feminist organization whose mission is to generate information, knowledge and skills to advance the inclusion and equality right of women and girls with disabilities.

English http://www.dawncanada.net/en/
French http://www.dawncanada.net/

CLEO – Community Legal Education Ontario
provides clear, accurate and practical legal rights, education and info to help people understand and exercise their legal rights
http://www.cleo.on.ca 

Ontario Native Women’s Association (ONWA): http://www.onwa.ca

Ontario Women’s Health Network (OWHN): www.owhn.on.ca

ACAS – Asian Community AIDS Services: www.acas.org

Ontario Coalition of Agencies Serving Immigrants: www.ocasi.org

Native Women’s Resource Centre
416-963-9963
http://www.nwrct.ca

SOS Femmes : http://www.sosfemmes.com

Kujenga Wellness Project : Kujenga seeks to Build strong families, promoting healing, cultivating community connections, and engaging in holistic teaching.

Supporting Women and Children Experiencing Violence

For Men Survivors

The Support Services for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse program provides help for male survivors of sexual abuse, both recent and historical. The program is the first of its kind in Canada and is delivered by agencies across the province.  https://www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca/english/ovss/male_support_services/

Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse – Family Service Toronto

To be eligible for service, a male survivor must:

  • Be 16 years of age or older at the time of service;
  • Be a resident of Ontario; and
  • Have experienced historical sexual abuse or be a victim of a recent sexual assault, including any incident of sexual activity without your consent.

The family of a male survivor may also be eligible for service.  Please contact our Service Access Unit at 416 595 9618 to discuss your situation.

Books

Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse By Mike Lew 
A resource manual for male survivors and those who wish to support them.

Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse By Mic Hunter
A psychologist examines the physical and emotional impact of abuse on its victims and the factors affecting recovery. This study explains the ways in which boys are molested and the reasons why men remain silent about it later in life. A well-researched and well written book.